1) “I don’t know”
Humbly saying, I don t know ` may feel like weakness, but we true people say it all the time simply because we know how to recognize it when we encounter it. Real people choose reality over faking it and are not shy of admitting when they do not know something. When you admit uncertainty you are leaving the door open to learning, growth, and working together. It indicates to others that you are open to learning and not stuck in the trap of needing to be right all the time.
2) “I’m sorry”
Until you can offer a sincere apology, simply extend an olive branch. Authentic people we see put a sincere apology when they have made a mistake or hurt someone. The three simple words transcend just “saying sorry” — they connote empathy and a desire to make things right. Taking their actions means they care about making it better and they also want to learn from it. Trust and intimacy built from a gut-felt Sorry is a recipe for relating well.
3) “I appreciate you”
Appreciation is much more than mere courtesy, it is recognizing someone’s worth, the benefits he/she has brought to your life. We build stronger ties and belonging when we say things like, “I value you.” Studies proven gratitude on a regular basis to be beneficial for mental health, increase well-being and promote positive relationships. Real people often take the time to remind others they are appreciated, which makes the world a better place for everyone.
4) “How can I help?”
When some one asks, — How can I help? they are demonstrating an genuineness for helping others. Only genuine people come to help without fucking up here and there. They only do this because they care about the well-being of others and want to make it in a fucking positive way possible. This phrase is not an attempt to appease but signals some genuine compassion and a willingness to make someone else’s life a little easier, without any quid pro quo. Be it to listen, to help or just to show up in the hour of need, this phrase represents an unassuming nature that one can have that builds bonds.
5) “I was wrong”
One of the most effective methods to gain trust and credibility is to admit when you’re wrong. It requires humility and courage to admit your mistakes but honest people do that because they choose the truth over their ego. They lay aside maturity and accept responsibility instead of making excuses for where they stand. When we show that kind of vulnerability, others often will, as well, creating a more open and honest atmosphere. To admit you are wrong, means you are changing and it opens space for growth, since it shows you are capable of learning from it.
6) “I’m here for you”
Providing emotional support is one of the most obvious signs of a truly genuine person. To hear someone say “I’m here for you,” is more than just a statement they cling to out of being polite; it quickly becomes something they know they are going to stick to and even if life gets rough out of their way. Authentic people ensure people feel valued, listened to, comforted and safe even in dark times. We bond in our vulnerability and familiarity sharing feelings can often engender a sense of connection as well as lower feelings of seclusion. The latter part serves as a reminder that you can endure through challenges without going through it alone.
7) “No”
To sit there and blatantly state that will be a hot No for you, may feel like a bad thing — But for truly real people, it is actually a very healthy boundary and a big No gift. Having the ability to say “no” is a reflection of self-respect and recognition of your boundaries. Authentic people realize that self-care and protecting their own energy come before all else — so they will say no when it is no longer in alignment with their values, time or energy. Your ability to draw boundaries keeps those relationships intact and allows you to be your best self for them without stretching yourself too thin.
